The 20 love types

Everyone speaks all five ways of loving. Your type is the two you lead with, in order.

Find my type · 5 min
Lead with Words

The Voices

Love has to be said. Praise, encouragement, the words that make it real.

The Confidant illustrationThe ConfidantWQWords + TimeLove is the conversation that goes past midnight.The Serenader illustrationThe SerenaderWTWords + TouchSay it softly, and say it close.The Champion illustrationThe ChampionWAWords + ActionsTell me you believe in me, then show up.The Poet illustrationThe PoetWGWords + GiftsLove I can keep, in words I can reread.
Lead with Time

The Companions

Love is attention. Phones down, plans kept, time that is just yours.

The Kindred illustrationThe KindredQWTime + WordsUndivided attention, and hearing it mattered.The Nester illustrationThe NesterQTTime + TouchA quiet night in, close together.The Teammate illustrationThe TeammateQATime + ActionsDoing life side by side.The Ritualist illustrationThe RitualistQGTime + GiftsTraditions, anniversaries, the small ceremonies.
Lead with Touch

The Embracers

Love is closeness. A hand to hold, a shoulder to lean on.

The Anchor illustrationThe AnchorTQTouch + TimePresence you can feel.The Romantic illustrationThe RomanticTWTouch + WordsHeld close, and told why.The Caretaker illustrationThe CaretakerTATouch + ActionsA hand on your back and the dishes done.The Devoted illustrationThe DevotedTGTouch + GiftsAffection you can hold onto.
Lead with Actions

The Doers

Love is effort. The errand run, the thing fixed before you asked.

The Rock illustrationThe RockAWActions + WordsSteady help, plainly said.The Right Hand illustrationThe Right HandAQActions + TimeLove is sharing the load.The Protector illustrationThe ProtectorATActions + TouchTakes care of you, then holds you.The Provider illustrationThe ProviderAGActions + GiftsNotices what you need and handles it.
Lead with Gifts

The Keepers

Love is being thought of. Not the price, the proof that you were remembered.

The Sentimentalist illustrationThe SentimentalistGWGifts + WordsKeeps every card you ever wrote.The Memory-Maker illustrationThe Memory-MakerGQGifts + TimeExperiences over things.The Sweetheart illustrationThe SweetheartGTGifts + TouchSmall surprises, big hugs.The Noticer illustrationThe NoticerGAGifts + ActionsRemembers the thing you mentioned once.

How the types work

Five ways of loving, first and second, make twenty types. Your first is what you need most. Your second is what has to come with it: an Anchor wants closeness first, and time to go with it.

Reading the two-letter code

Each type has a code: your first way of loving, then your second. W is words, Q is time together (Q for quality), T is touch, A is actions and G is gifts. So a QT leads with time, then touch.

A mirror, not a label

Love types are a way to reflect on what you need, not a diagnosis. Take what fits, leave what doesn’t. Your mix can shift over time and between relationships.

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