Love Type Quiz for Couples

How it works

  1. Take the quizAbout five minutes, about yourself. You get your love type and how all five ways of loving rank for you.
  2. Invite your partnerSave your result (it’s free), then send them an invite from your result or profile.
  3. CompareWhen they finish, see both results side by side, and where you differ.

Where couples often miss each other

Most of us give love the way we’d like to get it. When two people lead with different languages, both can be trying hard and neither feels it.

Actions“I cleaned the whole kitchen.”And they wanted you on the sofa with them. Effort that isn’t their language can go unnoticed.
Time“You’re here, but you’re not here.”Being in the same room isn’t the same as attention. Ten phone-free minutes can matter more than an evening side by side.
Words“You never say it.”Some people show love and assume it’s obvious. For others it isn’t real until it’s said.
Touch“Why do you pull away?”For one of you, a hand on the back is reassurance. For the other, after a long day, it can feel like one more demand.
Gifts“It’s not about the money.”A small thing picked up on the way home says “I thought of you.” Forgetting a date can sting for the same reason.

Talking about it after

  • Start with what already works.Name one thing they do that makes you feel loved before you name what you miss.
  • Ask, don’t assign.“Does that sound like you?” goes better than “this says you’re…”
  • Pick one small thing each.Something you can do this week, in the other person’s language.
  • Expect it to feel uneven at first.Speaking a language that isn’t yours takes practice. That’s normal.

Want to go deeper first? Read about each language, starting with time together and helpful actions, or browse all 20 love types.

Questions people ask

Can my partner and I take the love type quiz together?

Take it separately, each on your own phone, so neither answer leans on the other. Once you have your result, save it and send your partner an invite. When they finish, you can see both results side by side.

Do you give couples a compatibility score?

No. A number can’t tell you whether a relationship works. Couples with different ways of loving are often very happy. What helps is knowing what the other person needs, and that is what the comparison shows.

What if we have different ways of loving?

That’s common, and it’s not a warning sign. It usually means you’re each giving love the way you’d like to receive it. Once you can see the difference, small changes go a long way.

Will my partner see my answers?

No. They see your result, not how you answered each question. Your result is only shared if you choose to share it.

Are ways of loving scientifically proven?

The idea of five ways of loving comes from a 1992 relationship book, not from research, and a 2024 review by Impett and colleagues found limited evidence that matching styles predicts relationship satisfaction. Many couples still find it a useful way to talk about what makes each of them feel cared for.

Ready?

Find your love type in five minutes

Start the quiz