What it asks

The quiz is 30 short statements about everyday moments, six for each of the five ways of loving: words, time together, touch, helpful actions and thoughtful gifts. You rate each one from 1 to 5 for how much it makes you feel loved. There are no right answers.

While we test the new version, some visitors get our older quiz instead: 15 questions where you pick the better of two moments.

How your result is worked out

Each language gets a total from its six statements, from 6 to 30.
Your top two languages, in order, make your love type. With five languages there are 20 possible types.
If two languages tie exactly, we ask you which matters more, so the result is always your call, not a coin flip.
We also show how your five rank, which ones stand out for you, and three small things to try.

Giving as well as receiving

A second quiz, also 30 statements, asks how you show love to others. Put next to how you like to receive it, it shows where you might be giving love in a language the other person doesn’t speak.

What it can’t tell you

Ways of loving are a way to reflect and talk, not a scientific measure. Your result can shift over time and between relationships. We don’t score couples or predict whether a relationship will last.

What we keep

If you save your result, we keep your answers and result in your account so you can see them again. They’re private: shared links show your love type only. We never send your answers or results to advertisers. More in our privacy policy.

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